Our dogs are our family. It’s as simple as that. They are there for us through thick and thin, with their silent, unconditional love that they can never know how much we appreciate. Sadly, most of us will outlive our dogs, which means dealing with when to say goodbye and learning to cope with inevitable loss of their presence in your home.
Knowing when to say goodbye is undoubtedly one of the hardest decisions you will make in your life. The kindest decision for your dog is often the toughest one for you and the family, but the important thing is to put their needs before yours. If your dog is elderly, or unwell, it has been said that your dog will “tell you” when it’s their time to go. It may be a look you get, it may be a feeling, but really, your vet is the best person to advise you when the time is right.
Prepare by deciding what you want to do after your pet has passed. Some people like to spread their dog’s ashes as they would a family member, others like to have a burial, some people don’t like to have anything at all. It’s completely up to you what to decide, but it’s best to let your vet know in advance to avoid making a snap decision in an emotional moment.
When the time comes, the best thing to do is to make sure your dog is as comfortable as possible. Many vets offer a home service now, so this can save you and your dog from making the trip to the surgery. Wherever you are, keep them calm, ensure they feel safe, and honour them by making sure you stay with them until the end.
It’s going to be a terribly sad day, so make sure you take care of yourself and your loved ones. Call on your friends or family for support, make sure you eat something (comfort food is highly advised) and take the time you need to process your emotions.
There will be reminders in your home, such as beds, crates, leads, toys and food. It will be difficult to see them, but just as difficult to remove them. Our advice? Get a friend to help you when you’re ready to remove them, perhaps someone that doesn’t live with you that isn’t as emotionally attached. You may want to donate items, keep them as memories, or even just put them away for a time when you might be ready to welcome another dog one day.
Like the passing of a family member, you will need time to grieve your loss. Don’t forget that you are not alone.
If you are struggling, The Blue Cross provides a pet bereavement service where you can call, email, or have a live chat with someone who can offer your emotional support.
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